Moving this one over from the MySpace blog.
I started writing an article last night for our new site that may very well grow into a book. It’s already so long that if I do post it on the site, it will be broken down into parts. Unfortunately, I stayed up way too late writing because the words were flowing. The issue is one that’s been striking a chord for quite a while. I’ve been reminded a few times by the Abraham-Hicks and Jack Canfield material I’ve been listening to. The thoughts and judgments of the people we surround ourselves with has as much, if not more, effect on our thoughts and actions as our own. A few years ago, I took an online questionnaire to assess your potential for being a successful entrepreneur. The results were pretty accurate. I was basically doomed to failure, mainly because of my lack of organization, which is a given for anyone in business, duh. But the one that really stood out and impacted me was that this guy said that without the support of family and friends, you may as well not bother. Of course, he offered to fix all this for me for a few hundred bucks……. That second part was very true at the time and was a reflection of a lifelong theme, instilled by my poor, psychotic father and controlling mother. As Jack Canfield says in The Secret, we’re all from dysfunctional families and “So What?” I agree with him now but wasn’t quite there at that time. I was trying to start up an MLM business and the only person who supported me was my youngest son. One of the friends he tried to interest did check it out and although he didn’t choose that, is now a very successful cell phone representative, so all is well. My son just graduated college and his projected income is over $100,000 per year. Are the people who didn’t support me successful? Nope. I’ve reflected upon the need for approval and validation that we all have and only recently made some progress. It is hurtful when the people who say they love us the most are the ones who support us the least. As a stubborn Taurus still stuck in the autonomy vs. dependence stage of development, I have a thing about being independent and wanting to do it myself. It’s very, very hard for me to ask for help and support. If I ask, I’m really humbling myself to admit that I really need it. When I’ve asked and have gotten a “no” response, real or implied, I’ve allowed it to create feelings of resentment and depression. And as a typical Taurus, it’s ended friendships. I can be tolerant for 20 years but once this Bull sees red, get out of my way and wave bye-bye. But I’ve recently learned that the author of the questionnaire was wrong. You see, when the people closest to us fail to support us and we manage to hold on to our dreams and intent, the universe replaces them with the people who can raise our vibration rather than lower it. I joined MySpace a few years ago and only began blogging here last November after letting my editorial position go due to lack of time and missing the writing. This blog has already had over 21,000 views. In the process, I met Annette, who not only turned out to be one of the best friends I’ve had (as a Taurus, I’m a lone bull and very choosy about who shares the pasture) in my life but also the person I needed to come along, kick my butt and drag me along to start working toward my dreams. She’s amazing. And then the rest of you followed. The words of support and encouragement and friendships we are forming just blow me away. Imagine my surprise when a new friend request told me the other day that she actually READ my article in the 2007 Wicca Almanac and recognized my name! I wrote for the second largest women’s website n the world and increased the site traffic by over 100,000 visitors per month in the time I was there. Very few of those visitors were people I knew and not a single one ever joined the forum. It was reminiscent of my parents’ failure to acknowledge our abilities and accomplishments, and I allowed it to drain my energy for a long time. Praise hamburgers and halleluliah, I’m over it. So, I just wanted to share a bit for those who may be struggling with the same issues. Hold on, never give up, and you will be given exactly what and who you need to achieve your dream. I found this graphic a while ago and would like to put it somewhere on our new site. For me, it sums up the main intention that Annette and I have for our recently launched dream:
It’s all about showing others that it can be done and helping them get there.
Love, Parthena
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